Forgiveness

Mar 18

3 min read

Why You Don’t Need to “Forgive and Forget” to Move On | Psychology Today

A long while ago I was blindsided by an emotionally stunted and morally bankrupt person. Their bitter and vengeful act was an astonishing betrayal; its culminating effect snowballed into a complete nightmare of discrimination, trauma, and abuse

My refusal to immediately forgive them was met with the threat of dire consequences. A “do it or else” ultimatum was issued which only furthered the trauma and, quite frankly, really pissed me off. You can’t force someone to forgive nor should you and it’s not even always necessary. The prevailing thought is that forgiveness before a person is ready creates more trauma and serves no positive purpose. Anyone who insists is engaging in abusive behavior.

With time I was able to see the situation for what it was, an emotionally immature person whose demons were stronger than their character. This led me to feelings of both pity and compassion. I felt sorry for them while understanding the dynamics of how they came to be as they were. As the slang saying goes, “It sucks to be them.”

Here’s where I bring this conversation around to sound therapy. Sound has a remarkable ability to transform the worst of situations into something much better. Sound can heal. Search the internet and you’ll find all sorts of information about the science behind sound healing but something not readily available is the emotion behind the effects of sound. We hear about how crystal or Tibetan sound bowl baths provide relaxation but there is also the aspect of the return to joy that it provides.

My experience with tuning forks have not just helped me mentally and emotionally to recover from the trauma of betrayal but they also brought back the grace of joy and happiness. When I play the forks I’m transported to a place which has no space and time. It’s like I’m floating in a warm turquoise ocean safe in every way. When I play the forks for my clients they express the sentiment of being drawn into a peaceful far away place and of going deeply into a type of harmony with themselves and the world around them.

One of my teachers, Ali Young of Chiang Mai Holistic in Thailand, said when we play we can bring clients to places that are profoundly enriching. It was his statement about the power of sound that inspired me to buy a set of chakra crystal singing bowls something I had no interest in doing before his course.

In addition to the forks I now play the bowls daily and in doing so I can extend not just my forgiveness but a true and sincere desire that the person who behaved so badly and disrespectfully towards me addresses their demons before they truly and completely destroy not just their own life but the lives of the people around them. Maybe if they had known about sound healing before they lashed out, well, things might have turned out differently.

If you’re interested in learning more about sound healing do a google search or reach out to me. I’m always happy to answer questions. In supporting one another through kindness we make the world a better place. It will be okay because together we’ll make it okay.

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Diana Taylor

Peaceful Energy Healing

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